These 5 Things Are Stopping Your Mental Growth

5 Examples of Thinking Errors that Crush Mental Growth

These examples of thinking errors will help you spot mistakes in your thinking, and work to deal with them to accommodate mental growth.

1. Making a Tree Out of a Mustard Seed

Imagine delivering a discourse before thousands of people. Things were panning out as planned, but right at the conclusion, you fumble for words and mispronounce a few. You leave the platform defeated, scolding yourself about how stupid you were to mispronounce mere words. You’re convinced your observers think you’re an incompetent.

How to Control Catastrophizing

Put your thoughts in perspective to avoid catastrophizing. Is fumbling over words that terrifying? Are people really that shallow to only remember the blunders you made, rather than important, life-changing points?

2. Myopic Thinking

Myopic thinking is having a one-sided, restricted view of things and the world at large. With this thought process, nothing is ever mixed or sprinkled with color, only black-and-white.

How to Control Myopic Thinking

The “black-and-white” thinking error stems from having an unrealistic view of things and life. We all fail at a venture at some point in our lives and, not to be a party-pooper, but we’ll continue to fail at stuff. Failures are imminent, necessary commodities of life because they serve as avenues for growth.

3. Playing the Guess Game

Do you have an unhealthy habit of drawing conclusions? Before trying new things, do you already map out and conclude how things will transpire? Nothing is wrong with planning and preparing, but how about allowing life to unfold before your eyes?

How to Control Fortune-Telling

Great things happen beyond your comfort zone. As frightening as some things are, there’s always knowledge and experience to derive from the moment. Test out these predictions and allow things to reveal themselves. If you predict that you’ll fail, don’t allow that to prevent you from trying. Don’t allow your predictions to leave you immobile when you can put yourself out there and succeed.

4. Emotional Thinking

How often do you make decisions based on how you feel? Did you always gather the facts or are you guided by emotional reasoning?

How to Control Emotional Thinking

Recognize that your emotions aren’t a reliable map. How you feel about a situation doesn’t make it factual. Instead of acting from a subjective logic, go the extra mile to understand the entire picture. When in doubt, ask questions to form a reliable view of the situation, or avoid forming erroneous conclusions when information isn’t forthcoming.

5. Making Commands and Giving Ultimatums

How do you relate with others? Do you put out requests and demand that they’re met? Do you make unreasonable demands of yourself without room for flexibility? Thinking in demands and ultimatums is a setup for disappointments and unmet needs.

How to Control ‘Making Commands and Giving Ultimatums’ Thinking Error

Watch your language. Avoid using absolutes or words that put people in a tough spot. People love having choices. Issuing ultimatums puts people under immense pressure, which may blow up and escalate into something messy. As much as possible, avoid using words like “should have”, “must”, “need to”, “ought to”, and others.

After being in a plane crash, both my parents dying, and being in a coma for a month, I had no choice but to work on my MH, and share what I’ve learned.

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